Vol IX: People Pleasing

You’re far from being alone if you identify as a people pleaser – more than half the female population are too! In this episode Jacqui will talk you through how you can identify whether you (or someone you have a close relationship with!) are a people pleaser.

You’ll hear a bit of live therapy, as Antonia opens up about her own experiences as a people pleaser and Jacqui works through some techniques to tone down her – and perhaps your! – people pleasing ways.

Jacqui takes us through some great exercises, with some homework to try out on someone close to you who you feel comfortable with. Maybe there’s something you’d normally do to people please – like in Antonia’s case, you might always let friends choose where you go for dinner where you meet up. What would happen if you said you’d like to go to your favourite spot, or go to a restaurant you’ve always wanted to try?

Another great exercise is one Jacqui heard on Simon Sinek’s podcast, which involves asking your closest friends exactly why it is that they are your friends? And we want to go beyond the surface level, with the obligatory responses of ‘because you’re kind, caring etc!’. Ask for specifics and examples! Here’s a handout with some more info from Simon Sinek’s exercise:

https://simonsinek.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/01/FriendsExercise.pdf

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